I participated in a local practice session last night. Towards the end of it we were all sitting around chatting about what, forget, but we got onto the topic of the necessity of compromise between partners on the social dance floor.
A comment was made by one of the members of our group to the effect that connecting with a visiting dancer was extremely difficult because said dancer would not compromise. That of course digressed into a nearly heated argument (cooler heads fortunately prevailed) about whose responsibility it is compromise.
During the course of things an interesting observation was made about theory versus practice and a question was posed: Are you going to let your principle (of bother partners meeting in the middle style/connection-wise) get in the way of dancing?
It reminded me again of something I’ve heard Steven Mitchell say over and over and over and over, both toward a group, and to me specifically, both as an admonishment, and as a “Good Job”… as a leader you have to take care of your follower. You are dancing for her, she is not dancing for you.
I’ve found that when I think this, when I approach a dance and make it about her and her enjoyment I have a lot better dance, I am much more creative, I connect much better, regardless of her level. But when I approach a dance with an expectation that I’m going to get something from the dance, and look to her to connect with me the way I want to, when I expect, or worse, demand that she follow me a specific way, the dance is usually crap; it become wholly unfulfilling.
I expect the reverse holds true to, if I were a follower I would have much better dances if each time I worked to connect with my leader exclusively and regardless of my leaders efforts to connect at my level.
And then the theory holds true, if the leader strives to reach the follower where she is, and the follower reciprocates, but each independent of the other, that’s when there is magic on the floor.
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